Women are given a pass on mitzvos assay sh’bizman
gramma (time bound mitzvos) because they have to take care of the kids and
stuff in the house.
But there’s more to it than that.
The fact that they are exempt from these mitzvos is also
connected to their inherent kedusha which brings them closer to Hashem. In recognition of this kesher, Hashem, Who is
beyond Time, placed women outside those mitzvos which are time bound.
Time, in a certain sense, is the Poster Boy for this
world.
The more one is immersed in time that’s not
connected to a mitzvah, the more he becomes detached from Hashem, Who, as we
said above, is beyond time.
Query: What
do the Shemona Esray, Birchas Hamazon, Asher Yotzar, and brochos have in
common?
All of them serve as vehicles by which we can speak
directly to Hashem. And just as Hashem is
not time bound, the act of
communicating with Him is also floating somewhere above the Timeline.
But we are time bound.
And the Yetzer Hora sees to it that we remain so, keeping us mired in our time bound existence by making us conscience of time when
we most need to rise above it. And once we
are conscience of time we feel closed in and so we rush through another
davening, bentching, Asher Yotzar, and bracha just to get past it, trashing the
lines of communication with Hashem in the process.
Not so with most women.
Why is it that women generally daven with more
kavana, bentch with more kavana, and say Asher Yotzar and brochos with more
kavana, than men do?
Given their aforementioned kedusha, they are able to
rise above time in the sense that they are not conscience of it when
communicating with Hashem. They are able
to push past the time bound limitations of this world so as to able to speak
Hashem without feeling pressure to move on, and without a timeframe the
Yetzer Hora has nothing to work with.
Speaking with Hashem in a speed bump free environment not circumscribed by time is not the exclusive privilege of women. Men can also do it.
We just have to work a little harder at it.
